quietly daring.

buy the flowers

dearest beauties, 

i could write about our hunger for beauty for pages, for years, for decades... and i probably will. this post is a continuation of this beauty feast. i am finding in my research that the under belly of this need for beauty is giving permission to receive the beauty. to buy the flowers, to take the time, to create the altar whether it be peaches on a wood board or sea shells on the book shelf or the book shelf itself can be an altar. we all do this. we nest in this way. we create home in this way. if you look around you will see you have probably created many altars around you. it's something we do, we need this beauty to reflect us, to recall a memory, to rewrite a story, to create an idea, to make room for our dreams. if you are not doing this yet, you might hunger to do it. you feel it when you go to a friends home or family. it feels cozy and you don't know exactly why. 

"we must take the time to discover what is beautiful to each of us, beautiful enough that we are willing to protect and cherish it, change our lives; beautiful in the indigenous sense that it is beauty that organizes and gives meaning and purpose to the world." --ruth gender writes in "notes on the need for beauty"

in the creating of altars, taking the stickers off the fruit, placing things in the way that feels good in you... this all gives meaning and purpose to your world, if just, for that moment, that day, that week. there are altars that change up often and others that remain true to the need for longer. this is not about hiring a designer to get the right hue of fabric to match the shades. i love that too. that feels supported and calming to a part of me. that is alignment and connection in another way. 

what i am sharing about is intimacy. it's about being quietly daring during the madness that is the schedule, the needs, the noise. it's taking some time to create a cluster of beauty on the dusty shelf above the sink where you might put your ring when you do the dishes. maybe there is soap there and a dirty sponge. better yet the stainless steel scrubber with the scrambled egg stuck in it for days. what we see and what we want to see can be vastly different worlds. that shelf above the sink is your mirror. lets start with putting something there you love. let it reflect who are you. what you want. write words on a piece of paper and put it there with pink tape. ball jar it up with a few herbs. maybe there is always a flower there from the garden. it's not your kids art shelf... that can be in another area of the house. don't get me wrong, i love my kids art AND this is your area. your easil. your cake plate. whatever it is, it's yours so start feeding yourself what you love to see and how you want to be xxxx

here is a quick moment of the shelf about my kitchen sink... 

thai fried rice//an everlasting meal.

"tug your memories back into the kitchen with you and you'll
find yourself less separate from the idea of making food"
an everlasting meal//tamar adler

i have been taking an everlasting bath
in the words, quotes and recipes of
tamar adler's amazing book an everlasting meal.

i have underlined (almost) every page and the amount
of little tomato decorated post it things holding the place
of reminders & recipes is comical.

tamar is sewing from a similar fabric
when she talk about permission, freedom
& inspiring us to turn on the fire
whether it be boiling water or stoking the oven...
it's the beginning to so many things.

she nourishes us with a refreshing simplicity
while in the same breath de-whelms our daily
conversation about gathering, cooking & eating.

this is the first time i have ever looked forward to
having left over rice....
one day, two day or even three day old rice!
she gives us a template (which i LOVE)
where you can make it your own
with whatever you have in the fridge...

thai fried rice
a natural pour//1 tbs of peanut or roasted peanut oil
2 shallots, sliced
1 thai bird's-eye chili (i do not do chile but you can!)
2 cloves garlic, smashed a bit & chopped up
1 cup or more of yesterday's rice (or 3 days old...)
salt & love
1/2 cup cucumber, radish or green tomato (did not measure this)
*i also threw some peas in there*
2 cups chopped cilantro, mint, basil or just cilantro (i only had parsley)
a big squeeze of lime
a bit of sugar
2 tsp thai fish sauce
optional: 1 fried egg per person 
i cracked two eggs open onto the batch while i was making it all 
it gave it a thickness i liked.. i mixed it in with a fork...
you can also fry the egg separate and add it on top

heat the oil in a wide pan or wok
you need enough surface area for each grain to fry..
let the oil get hot... you can even let it smoke a bit.
then add the shallots, chile, garlic and then the rice...
spread it all over the pan... let it fry then add the rest of the ingredients..
i loved the radish and cucumber in here too!

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how you go